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As an avid reader, I’ve always had to use my imagination to understand where reluctant readers were coming from. I do get that it’s difficult to truly enjoy something that is, as yet, an unconquered skill. This definitely explains many reluctant readers. For them the fix is obvious, get them additional help by spending extra time reading with them, utilizing school resources and/or hiring a tutor.
But what about the readers who are on level but still don’t love reading? I firmly believe that reading is such an integral part of life that everyone should at least like to read. And, if you truly have a passion for reading, your life is that much more fulfilled and adventurous. So how can you light the fire and spark the love of reading in your child? Here are a few tips I’ve found helpful with my children and students:
Give Them Choices.

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First, expose your child to different genres to find the books they are most interested in. The children’s librarian at your local public library is a great resource. Allow your child to have as much choice in selecting their book as possible. You can offer guidance to be sure the book is at the proper level (see below) and appropriate for their age, but within those parameters, your child will be a much more motivated reader if they have a say in what they read. Remember the forced readings you had in high school? Need I say more?
Choose Books at the Proper Reading Level.
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If your first experience with mountain climbing was on a steep mountain covered in a sheet of ice without proper support or equipment, you would most likely avoid repeating the experience at all costs.
The same is true for budding readers. They will receive more enjoyment and love of reading if their book is on the proper level. Books on a just right reading level facilitate comprehension and enjoyment.
One way to tell if the level is appropriate for your child is to try what teachers refer to as the 5 finger rule. It’s pretty simple really. Open the book in question to a full page and ask your child to begin reading. Have them hold up a finger for each word they do not know. After they finish the page, count the fingers they have up. Here’s the general formula. Use your discretion as you understand your child’s frustration level best.
- 0-1 fingers = too easy
- 2-3 fingers = just right
- 4 fingers = challenging. I can probably read this with help.
- 5 fingers = too hard; frustration level; pick another book
Leave Them in Suspense.
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If you knew my son now you would never believe he was once a reluctant reader. He loves reading so much, he minored in literature. He is one of the most well read individuals I know, consistently building his wonderful book collection. He is always reading at least one, if not several books, at any given time. He definitely has a love of reading!
There are some specific strategies I used that helped him progress from a reluctant reader to an avid bookworm, the most effective being leaving him in suspense. I had read to him since infancy, so he had a love of books and of being read to. It was the reading to self he didn’t much care for. He was content to just relax and have me read to him. It was easier. I decided to make being read to more difficult than independent reading. I used the steps above to help him choose books that were interesting to him and on his reading level. When we sat down to read, I would first read to him. I would purposely stop at a very intense part, saying I had other commitments and we’d have to read more later. All day long he would beg me to read more. Each time I would tell him that we would pick up the book again at our reading time the next day or he could go ahead and continue the story by himself any time he wanted. I loved reading with my children and they were a definite priority in my life so it was painful telling him “no.” However, it paid off when, after several days, my son could stand it no longer and began reading on his own. Soon (and, honestly, before I was ready) he was an independent reader and much too impatient to wait for mom to read to him. One of those sad, but necessary, rites of passage.
So, if you have a reluctant reader, don’t give up! Give them choices at the proper reading level, get them hooked and leave them in suspense. Just as important, let them see you read.
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